Setting goals in life is important, but we often overlook how we get there. One solution is to focus more on your system, instead of trying to stay focused solely on a distant destination. While goals are good for planning your progress, your martial arts system is where you make progress.
I have always admired people who are “tough”. I do not mean “tough” in the sense that they could win every fight that they are in. I look on tough people as those who will continue soldering on no matter what obstacles are placed in front of them. These people, whether they are a mile in front or a mile behind, are always trying their best to the very end. These people can be in any walk of life, not just martial arts. They are the type of people you would want in the trenches with you, as they are committed.
Respect is important for you and everyone around you. Respect is not something that can be demanded, as it will not last. Respect is something that is offered firstly, then earned secondly. It is one of those “karma” things. To get respect, you must first give respect. When you show respect for others, it might not mean a lot to you at the time. However, it could mean the world to the other person. And that is part of your service to others.
Difficult situations are a part of life. Throughout the day, there will be a number of things that do not go exactly how you would like them to. You may be forced to make decisions that you do not necessarily want to make. If you make choices from a negative state, such as anger or frustration, it can have unfavourable outcomes for all involved. It is therefore critical that you make these decisions from a “still and neutral” position.